When we can see all things as they are, instead of as we desire
them to be, then we shall have no more disappointments
and few more sorrows.
We find much of this thralldom of Maya in relation to marriage.
The man thinks he wants to live with a woman for a lifetime
and finds he doesn't want to live with her for a month
is under the thralldom of Maya. The man thinks the women
will be faithful to him till death, and finds she commits
adultery with the first handsome soldier, is under the
thralldom of Maya. And so on and so forth. We must endeavor
to free ourselves from this thralldom otherwise we shall
never gain wisdom or come to know peace.
We see much of this Maya element in the prevalent attitude toward
sexuality. To give an example: "the man who shoots or
divorces his wife because she has had sexual intercourse
with another man" shows at once that he attaches a prodigious
importance to sexual intercourse itself; on the other
hand, the man who forgives his wife, or, better still,
does not even feel there is anything to forgive, attaches
little importance to sexual intercourse itself, and therefore
proves himself to be not only a more evolved and enlightened
soul but a more chaste one as well. Such a man no longer
sees either sexuality or marriage through the veils of
There are prevalent misconceptions regarding chastity, purity,
and complete abstinence. The chaste man is not to our
way of thinking here, the man who practices complete sexual
continence, but as I just implied, the man who sees sexuality
in its true light. As nobody should be called a gourmand
who enjoys his dinner when hungry, yet otherwise attaches
little importance to eating, so nobody should be called
unchaste who enjoys the sexual act when the body demands
it, but otherwise is not preoccupied with sexuality itself.
With regard to purity--what we mean by the word is not prudery
but the exact opposite. Purity is the power to see the
beautiful in all things and all functions of life, and
to glorify all actions by the spirit of unselfishness.
He who has learned to be unselfish in every act of the
sexual life, is pure.
If only the pure in heart, in the sense of the sexually abstinence,
could see God, then every old lady and old gentleman who
had outgrown all their passions--or never had any--might
be in that enviable position. Why should God create in
men and women a function by means of which they were to
be debarred from seeing him? Maya again--even texts the
unwary interpret through the veils of Illusion.
Some students and teachers of mystical or occult
philosophy have a wrong attitude toward love and passion.
You have no right to expect unadvanced souls to behave
like advanced ones. Though the example is trite, the child
in the kindergarten cannot be expected to know or learn
the lessons of the Sixth Form. Nor must you expect even
advanced souls to behave like perfect souls in this world--for
even advanced souls may not be equally evolved in all
directions; there's a little chip out of the crystal somewhere.
There's also the type of body to be considered, in which an advanced
soul finds itself during a particular incarnation. Take
for instance the creative artist: very often the finest
creative artists appear by their behavior in the domain
of sexual morals to be unadvanced souls. And yet they're
not--they're merely born with a type of body which is
exceedingly difficult to operate and control. When, say,
a musician is composing a music drama or a symphony, tremendous
forces from Beings perceptible to clairvoyants are playing
around and through that man, and the result is a stirring
up of his entire emotional nature.
Again--you have to realize that every form of control entails
the expenditure of force, and if we consider that nearly
all the force which the creative artist has at his disposal
must go into his work, there's very little over by means
of which to control his sex nature. But even so, the love
affairs of a great artist, looked at from the standpoint
of the Masters--who can see--are not quite the same as
are those of the ordinary man. Their very transience,
which the strict moralist condemns, is symptomatic not
of a vacillating soul, but of a soul so one-pointed that
even love in its erotic sense makes no lasting impression
on it. It is only an evolved soul who can fall in love
with ten women and not wish to marry anyone of them.
The great artist knows, be it consciously or subconsciously,
that his love affairs are only Maya--and as soon as anyone
realizes that Maya is Maya, he proves himself free from
the thralldom of Maya. Those self-righteous ones who exclaim:
"He's a genius, poor fellow, so I suppose we must forgive
him. . . " are neither charitable nor enlightened: only
in the heart of the flower of true understanding is hidden
the sweet honey of pardon. Thus love affairs are not evil
in themselves; they are only evil when they upset a man's
judgment, bring suffering to others or lure us away from
the Great Purpose.
But the above is not applicable to souls so advanced as to be
nearing Masterhood. In this case, sexual fidelity to one
woman is desirable because infidelity has a disintegrating
effect upon our higher bodies.
The highest type of love may be seen where two people are united
in the spirit of perfect freedom, yet neither feel the
desire to avail themselves of it. But although this may
be the highest form of love, it is not of necessity the
highest form of marriage. Only when such people marry
in order to serve the Higher Ones and Humanity, be it
either through work which can only be undertaken conjointly,
or by providing suitable bodies for souls wishing to reincarnate
through them, only then did they enter upon that type
of marriage which is the highest of all, and hence totally
beyond the glamorous distortions of Maya.